HOW TO KNOW YOUR VALUE ;)
By Yoonang Bustarde - April 03, 2018
Knowing Your Value is an emotional subject, and when I ask this question people are often confused as to how to answer. It is easy to identify when you don’t feel valued, respected, or appreciated, but knowing your value is somewhat different.
But what exactly is knowing your value? Is it having a positive self-esteem? Is it knowing your worth and being able to identify all of your positive qualities? I’m not sure.
In my view, knowing your value and self-worth are inextricably linked. Self-worth is defined as “the sense of one’s own value or worth as a person.” I think that is one part of it, but the other aspect is being able to understand how much of a difference you have made in any given situation with the contribution you have made.
In this short piece, I would like to outline five things that can indicate you know your value:
SELF-WORTH VALUE #1: YOU HAVE POSITIVE SELF-ESTEEM.
You believe in and like yourself. Self-esteem is confidence in one’s own worth or abilities. You are comfortable with who you are — your weight, height, and everything that makes and represents you. You are confident in the work you deliver and your sense of professionalism. You like and have a great relationship with people. I think that without positive self-esteem it would be difficult to know your value.
SELF-WORTH VALUE #2: YOU RECOGNISE THE DIFFERENCE YOU MAKE.
When you know your value, you will confidently approach a negotiation with full belief in your knowledge, skills, and experience and the difference you can make.
SELF-WORTH VALUE #3: YOU SEE YOURSELF AS A PEER.
In any given situation, knowing your value means feeling that you are an equal with anyone you interact with: clients, bosses, colleagues, or friends. You are not a supplicant. Nor do you feel privileged to be with someone or to work in a particular type of organisation. You have a personal sense of value and deservedness and assert yourself as an equal in personal and business relationships.
SELF-WORTH VALUE #4:YOU ARE CLEAR ABOUT YOUR VALUES.
You know your boundaries. You are clear about what is acceptable behavior, how you like to be treated and spoken to, and you have the courage to speak out when necessary. You don’t need external validation to prove your value ; instead, you have an internal compass of what is right and wrong.
SELF-WORTH VALUE #5: YOU BELIEVE THAT YOU ARE GOOD ENOUGH.
When you pitch for new business, you believe that you have sufficient experience and have the qualifications, case studies, and testimonials to back them up. You don’t need another certification, course, degree, or further experience for validation before you feel you are good enough. You simply are.
Know your value and don’t accept being treated in a way less than you deserve. Now, I don’t mean to start going out there with unrealistic expectations, demands and a sense of entitlement. I am saying that you deserve to be treated the way you treat others, and vice versa. The minute you negotiate your self worth and accept less, you say to the universe that you don’t deserve any better, and the vicious cycle/pattern begins. Change for yourself and of course, friends and partners are great mirror reflections that help you grow. But don’t change out of the wrong reasons to appease someone or in hopes that they will like you more. If they judge you for who you are now, they aren’t your fit.
Bible Verses For Self Worth
Personally, I turn to God when I start to doubt my self-worth, and I found that reading Bible verses helps me to love myself more.
1. "I will praise you for I am fearfully and wonderfully made." -Psalm 139:14
2. "The Lord does not look at things people look at. People look at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart." -1 Samuel 16:7
3. "Because you are precious in my eyes, and honored, and I love you..."- Isaiah 43:4
4. "Why, even the hairs of your head are all numbered. Fear not; you are of more value than many sparrows." -Luke 12:7
5. "And he said to his disciples, 'Therefore I tell you, do not be anxious about your life, what you will eat, nor about your body, what you will put on.'" -Luke 12:22
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Are you happy?
ReplyDeleteI'm not.
DeleteMagkano po ba?
ReplyDeleteWhat are you trying to say?
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ReplyDeleteDo we really need to know our value ?
ReplyDeleteActuallly,Yes because When the things that you do, and the way you behave, match your values, life is usually good you're satisfied and content. But when these don't align with your personal values, that's when things feel… well wrong.
DeleteSo let’s firstly look at how knowing YOUR Values Can Really Help You
What importance does knowing oneself's value can give?
ReplyDeleteknowing yourself is a journey.It is about discovering who you are as a human being and yes the real you and To be honest, it is up to you and you have to decide for yourself the importance of knowing yourself and whether you want to go on that journey.
DeleteDo you love your self?
ReplyDeleteActually I didn't know because I view myself as a failure in life.
DeleteARE YOU A VALUABLE PERSON?
ReplyDeleteI am a person of worth because I AM RARE
DeleteThere is only one of me in the whole population on this earth, this fact never changes. A rare thing is very valuable, priceless. Do you agree? So we must be of some worth if we are so priceless.HAHAHAHA. Rebat mo yon.
how can a person become valuable?
ReplyDeleteDon't focus on being valuable. Rather focus on developing right values. If you have the right values, you will definitely become valuable.
DeleteAm I valuable for you? why and why not.
ReplyDeleteYes,Because you are SPECIAL friend.
DeleteDo I still have to care for others even after I learned to value myself
ReplyDeleteMaybe people don't want you to care about them or they are scared of not living up to your expectations so they don't even want you to care about them.
DeleteAfter reading this it can be my inspiration to know my value in my.life?
ReplyDeleteAfter reading this it can be my inspiration to know my value in my.life?
ReplyDeleteYes,That is exactly the purpose of this blog to inspire you.
DeleteHow would you define your values?
ReplyDeleteI am a person of worth because I AM RARE.
DeleteIt is very important to know our self worth, because once we have it we can let other people feel their worth as well.
ReplyDeleteWe always have that worth within us, but the questio is how long we can feel it and how we can sustain it?
ReplyDeleteas long as we feel that we are important and as long as you believe in yourself.
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